If you’re just starting out with tarot and you’ve heard the whisper: “You must be gifted your first deck,” then you’re not alone. This superstition circulates widely, even today, and can stop spiritual seekers from embracing their own tarot practice with confidence. At The Empress & Wolf we love mythbusting this idea in store so felt it was time to write about it.

At The Empress & Wolf, one of the most common questions we get is “What’s my birthstone?”

While the idea of birthstones is fun and has certainly become popular, the truth is that they’re not as ancient or universal as most people think. In fact, the modern birthstone list is more of a marketing invention than a mystical tradition.

Crystals can be a meaningful ally in trauma healing work, especially for those who feel connected to their energy and symbolism. They can help create a sense of safety, offer gentle emotional support and serve as physical reminders of your resilience and commitment to your healing journey.